Thoughts...

The start of a new year always makes you reflect and wonder. Everyone is looking back on the previous year, thinking about their actions, maybe even wishing they could have done things differently. Its a state of melancholy that most find themselves lost in whilst they decide how to approach the new year. A new year brings with it a new chance to reinvent and improve. Well, since it is new years and 2011 is behind us, a lot of thoughts have been floating around in my head that seem to prevent me from focusing on what I need to be focusing on. So I thought I would do a blog post in hopes of clearing my head. 

Second chances

Do second chances actually work? I've often believed in second chances and when it comes to relationships and love, I have given second chances to most past romances. But it never works. I am always the one who is worse off in the end. Since I can remember I have always been someone who can never burn bridges. In the heat of the moment things may go terribly wrong and I can become irrational (but then again, who doesn't). But I am finding that it those bridges that I have burnt at a younger age that continue to haunt me to this day today. I am finding myself lost in thought of 'what if'. This doesn't just apply to love, but also friendships too. I think you might be able to tell from the lack of coherency in my writing that my thoughts are literally all over the place. I think second chances are dependent on the situation at hand and I feel that I've been hoping for reconciliation in all the wrong places. Time to let go and move on. 

Opportunities

Last year I had some of the most amazing opportunities to extend my working portfolio and gain experience in various areas of journalism, media and fashion. When I mention these to various people they always reply: "Oh you're so lucky". It has nothing to do with luck at all. It is about going out there, putting the word out, emailing, knocking on doors, retweeting, until someone notices you. You can't blame circumstances for not succeeding. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get ahead in this world are the ones who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can't find them, they make them. To get by in today's world you have to show your true dedication and passion. If you keep knocking on those doors, people will notice. 

"All men dream, but not all equally. Those who dream by night, 

in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake to find it was all vanity. 

But the dreamers of the day are dangerous, for they may act their dreams 

with open eyes, and make things happen" - T.E. Lawrence

XOXO

Alex

2011: The Best Bits

It's finally coming to the end of 2011. Still asking myself where has this year gone! As I get older, the years just seem to fly by without me noticing. 2011 has been a big year for me. It got off to a rocky start with the ending of a relationship and the dissolution of a few friendships, but out of that I've become a lot stronger with each passing month and made better friendships than I could have thought and I couldn't be happier right now. I'll give you a quick low down on a few high points of this year along with a few photos!


Enjoy :)


1) Meeting my new housemates. 
These guys are seriously amazing and never fail to make me smile. They're all so unique and different (how we all get on is one of life's great little mysteries), but as the newbie to the house, they just made it so comfortable for me and soon became a member of their little family.

2) Glastonbury: Best weekend of my life. 

3) Jacob. My baby brother who just completes my big, crazy family. His little face just lights up my day and never fails to make me smile. If I'm ever having a bad day, I only have to look at his cheeky little grin and I forget all my troubles. I can't wait to watching him grow up with Joseph next year and witness all the mischief they get in to. 

4) Jacques Townhouse and my time in London. 

Back in July, I was offered the most amazing opportunity to work with the lovely Frankie Murray of Swell Vintage, assisting her as a stylist at the Jacques Townhouse in London for 2 weeks. It was so much fun and I had a blast getting to know new people, finding lifelong friends and making great industry contacts. Wish I could relive those 2 weeks with Frankie, Akeela, Hannah, Terrence, Caroline and all the others at Chandos House!... If only to have another lumberjack breakfast at 10pm at the Diner in Soho, or to steal more of Caroline's amazing cupcakes!! 

5) Nights out with the home crew.
This year I tried to come home as often as I could to spend time with the besties. Spending many nights out just having a laugh like we used to in school and getting up to mischief. I think catching up with everyone from home is important and maintaining those friendships has really helped me get through this year.

6) Sex & London City Party at London Fashion Week

In September I went up to London with Mia and Hann for the LFW party by invite from the lovely ladies Nixalina and Karena from Fashion Forward PR. I had an amazing night talking to  people from the fashion industry and getting a little tipsy from the cocktails at Amika! The party was a great night and I finally got to meet people that I had only conversed with over Twitter. But I think spending the morning after bonding with the girls in Covent Garden, drinking tea and getting an incredible sugar rush from the biggest cupcakes ever that really was the cherry on the cake... ha!

7) Fashion Society. 

I definitely underestimated the amount of hard work that goes into help run a University society! With so much planning to do before we even came back to Uni, the girls and I had our work cut out for us before we'd even started. But it was definitely worth it! The 6 of us have worked together to plan events, with many meetings in Milgi, and getting a little too tipsy on our first social. I think our high point was pulling off our fashion charity show. We raised over £200 for charity, which really was a credit to how hard everyone had worked. Next year we have even more amazing things lined up and an even bigger fashion show! So keep an eye out for tweets and invites to our events!

(Photo courtesy of James Cohen)

2011 has been the best year yet, and I just look forward to what 2012 brings.


XOXO


Alex

In Loving Memory

I still remember the morning when everything changed. I remember the hurt look on my mother's face as she answered the telephone. I remember the sickening feeling in my stomach as we drove to the house. I remember the song that played on the radio that morning. I remember hearing the cries of my family in the other room. I remember the last time I saw him. That day was 5 years ago today and I still remember every little detail. It plays over and over in my head as I relive those final moments, before everything changed. It's been 5 years and it doesn't get any easier. 


This day is much harder now than it ever has been. As I grow older I am more aware of things and how they affect me. I realise now, more than ever, how much he influenced the person I am today.


I know everyone says that their Grandfather was the greatest. My Dado certainly was. A man who always put his family first. Who would never let one of his girls go without a seat if the house was packed (which it usually was on the weekend!). A man who's charm and kindness was so overwhelming, that you just couldn't not smile when you saw him. 


I remember his smooth voice, the sparkle of his blue eyes and the warmth in his laugh. I can still even hear him singing "Oh Aggie, Aggie May... someone's taken her away" (he had nicknames for all us kids ha!). I can still remember how frustrated I used to get when he would always ask me how my boyfriend was doing, when I didn't even have one! I remember how I could never get angry at him and no matter how upset I was, he would always make me smile. 


10 years ago, I wrote that my Dado was my Hero. And he really was. I think he was the hero of my whole family. He had 3 generations of girls who only admired him, and grandsons who idolised him. 


My Dado was a great man. I miss him more and more everyday. But I feel comfort in knowing that he is always with me and looking after my family, keeping us out of trouble and helping to make our dreams come true. I think he would be really proud if he could have seen us today; seeing the adults we've all blossomed in to. 


It was 5 years today that he went from us. From his chair, but never from our hearts.

Miss you, John Boy.

xxxxxx

Photography: Day at the Park

Just a few snaps I took today in the park with my father and brother. Roath Park in Autumn is so pretty! 

XOXO


Alex

Busy, Busy, Busy Bee

As I'm sure you might have realised, I don't blog very often, and I assure you there is a reason for that... I'm just so busy I keep forgetting to. Which I know is really bad, but I promise to take more time for my blog. I just thought I'd make a little post to keep everyone informed of what I'm currently doing and upcoming projects.


Beatreview.com
I'm sure you might have seen me tweeting links to my posts. I'm one of the newbies to the site but I had a meeting with my editor a few weeks ago who told me that my posts have been a huge success to the site! Which I am so happy about! Since then he has made me head fashion writer! At the moment the site is under construction but I've been told that I will have my own section dedicated to fashion and particularly Cardiff fashion! There is very little media out there that showcases Cardiff as an upcoming fashion capital. So I'm hoping to feature street style photos of the city's budding fashionistas, promote upcoming fashion events, include interviews of people from Cardiff who now work in the industry, etc.. It's a new project for me and I know it's going to be a lot of work, but I am so excited to see where it goes.


Singles Warehouse
I'm really excited to be one of the featured writers for Singles Warehouse, one features of the UK's leading dating blogs. The blog features a lot of really great dating tips and witty posts by writers who share their dating stories and advice to members. Personally speaking, I have experienced love before, a couple of times but still don't understand it (but then again, who does?!). So be sure to keep up with my fortnightly posts under the alias name Forever Hopeful, as I (hopefully) pass on words of wisdom to others like me.


Fashion Society
So it's my last year on University so I decided to make the most of it and so decided to join the committee of Fashion Society. So far it's been incredible and it's only the 2nd week of term! The other ladies on the committee; Mia, Hann, Hannah,Jodie and Pip have been so lovely to spend time with and we've had some great time so far planning all the events and meeting for tea. Some of our events aren't just for members, so I  will try to keep you all posted on any that I think you'd like to come along to !


I do have lots of other little projects but some are unconfirmed and are still 'in the works', so out of fear of jinxing them, I won't say too much about them... for now!


XOXO


Alex

Judy's Affordable Vintage Fair

So I realised that I am awfully delayed with putting up my posts, which I do apologise for! Being back in Uni, it's a little difficult to juggle so many different things. Anyway, I have just returned home having spent a lovely couple of hours with Mia and Catt at Judy's Affordable Vintage Fair at Cardiff's Student Union. I always love going to Judy's fairs as they always have the best selection of vintage buys from homeware to jewelry and even had a cute seating area for tea and cupcakes!

There were so many different stalls from lots of new independent vintage sellers that we had to make 4 trips around the stalls in order to take everything in! The variety was overwhelming! I managed to catch up with the lovely ladies at Rose Tinted vintage (who always have the most amazing dresses at the best prices!), they're always my favourite ladies for vintage and always have the cutest bags! 

I was surprised and overwhelmed by the age ranges of the shoppers at the fair. There were young children with their parents, young teens to adults, it was really lovely. Catching up with Jo and Danielle from Rose Tinted we were discussing how Cardiff has a overwhelming support network of vintage buyers and shoppers but not many people know about the events. It seems to be a common passion for most fashion shoppers in  Cardiff but not many know of the events. So I'm hoping that my work with BeatReview.com I can hopefully bring more awareness to these events and keep everyone in the know! 

Here are just a few photos I took at the fair:

Overall, a lovely morning of vintage, fun, tea and cakes! Looking forward to the next fair!

Also, if anyone knows of any vintage/fashion events then please let me know on alex.gravell@gmail.com

XOXO

Alex

Fash Soc goes to LFW

I realise that I'm a little delayed with this blog post, and I do apologise!

On Friday, the Fash Soc girls and I were invited to the Sex and London City party hosted by the gorgeous Nixalina and FashionForwardPR. It was a fabulous night of cocktails and meeting new people. Oh and I also met up with my lovely friend Frankie Murray, who I worked with for the Jacques Townhouse event back in July. It was great to see her, catch up and drool over the Diner dinners we love so much! Hopefully we'll get invited to more FashionForward events in the future!

Here's a few pictures from the night.

(You may notice that I'm not wearing the dress I was planning on wearing... had a slight wardrobe malfunction and went with option 2)

XOXO

Alex